Less clicking, more cuddling! Smartphones are destroying our sex life

A message in Whatsapp, a marker in the case of Facebook, two new Followers and amusing as well as interesting Stories with Instagram – day-to-day the majority of is flooded with countless messages also in front of the bedroom door nothing to Hold on to.

Because it can happen quickly, that the Partner remains on track and the love of life in the Background moves.

Masters and Johnson and intimacy coachin Yella Cremer explains now, as the beloved Smartphone even manages to destroy the sex life and the intimacy of many couples and so many relationships at risk.

Smartphones are often part of the bedroom

Since the use of Smartphones can lead you to fall Asleep to massive sleep disorders, experts recommend already for some time, to ban the devices completely from the bedroom.

Many use your phone also as an alarm clock, which is why it is always in the immediate vicinity on the night table – the temptation to check in quickly even Instagram and co. is therefore quite large.

Masters and Johnson Yella Cremer explained to the Online magazine 'ze.tt': “Smartphones are disturbing often quite handy, if you are next to the bed, and ringing, buzzing, or vibrating. The power each Time, curious and attracts attention from the Opposite to the mobile phone."

Not surprising is also the fact that many couples spend their evenings automatically prefer with your Smartphone, as is – the negative consequences for the relationship should be clear.

Smartphones reinforce resentment

To ignore the vibrating phone on the bedside table, it often takes every amount of will power, because most of the Apps provide a constant dependence according to the latest news in the case of the users – you want to be constantly up to date and forget sometimes, even your Partner.

Yella Cremer explains: “It is no wonder that many throw up have a quick look at the Mails, and social networking check-in.”

In fact, the Smartphone can provide even for suspicion, if the partners do not want to explain what is happening Important to the flickering screen – or what could, in principle, be more important than the Partner itself.

This mistrust is widening the gap between the lovers and can quickly put a strain on the relationship.

If the partners note that you are to the next thing, do the same, it is your loved one often and get down to your Smartphone – at least then it is the togetherness completely over.

The thoughts are constantly new messages

Even if you take it upon yourself to ignore the news and focus entirely on the Partner, the attention for the time of vibrating the mobile phone.

And by then, the thoughts about who wrote probably the circles, liked or marked – to enjoy the current Moment of intimacy with the Partner and to let go, is usually impossible and also quite unfair.

“After such an interruption, you need time to get back in the Moment. The other often feels left behind, maybe yourself, the Smartphone and the vicinity is definitively flutes,“ says Yella Cremer.

In fact, Smartphones for the Holy love life will be even more dangerous than the TV – this was for a long time as a passion killer number one.

Cremer says: “The Smartphone invites you to interact: one like, a little heart send. However, the TV is harmless, because the Film continues. Also, the frequency of the new news is on the TV much lower.“

So the relationship still be saved

Who knows in one or the other Situation in the bedroom again, not to tick off the relationship directly have failed.

A major advantage of Smartphones have, but The users have in Hand, whether you want to give the electronic device so much space in your relationship.

Of course, it is very tempting in bed in the evening time quickly the Feed through, however, one should consider urgently whether closeness and intimacy occupy a greater importance.

The expert explains that communication is incredibly important, because to hope that the partners separates itself from its Smartphone, is mostly futile.

Yella Cremer therefore advises: “Clear agreements can help, for example, phone-free times or spaces. Also important: after for mobile free time thank you and tell you what was different. So it remains in the memory of the phone is worth waiver.“

With a few little Tricks you can get his love life so easily and without any interruption fall on each other.

Antonia Hagedorn

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