Between proximity and distance: How couples keep their love in spite of the Corona-crisis

The Coronavirus intended for weeks the life – and the relationship everyday. Many couples have spent more time together than usual. That’s not always run smoothly.

Every Fourth (27 percent), living in a partnership, it is uncertain whether his relationship survives the Corona-crisis unscathed. This is the result of a survey conducted by the Online Dating Agency Parship among approximately 1,000 German citizens.

It is important to understand why it’s so, says Ann-Marlene Henning. “The body and brain are set up on danger, so the fight-or-flight,” says the sex therapist from Hamburg.

Escape the last few weeks, however, was not possible. Instead, it is for many 24/7 home office, in addition to the better half, and possibly children. “Since the Partner is also to the enemy.

Couple therapist Clemens von Saldern, from Berlin, is pleading for leniency. Be tip: a lot of effort to realize, again and again, how is the Partner – and self.

Barbara Lubisch is not recommended to put every word on the gold balance. “Do you have understanding for your Partner and for ill feelings,” advises the Deputy Federal Chairman of the German psychotherapists Association.

Joint projects are looking for

Against the boredom and the thoughts carousel stimulates of Saldern to, projects to look for, things for which no time was – together with the Partner or the partner.

However, to create the space and to protect this, the experts consider to be extremely important. If possible, spatially.

The a recovers maybe better with a Workout in the living room, while the other prefer to go for a walk. “It is important to look for ways that everyone can a little bit of leeway, even without a Partner to maintain,” says psychotherapist Lubisch.

Time for relationship work

Maybe couples can use this time for Positive? The question is: Can I tackle something I’ve wanted to change for a long time? This can also apply to the partnership. Games with question cards or tasks can help in the relationship work and casual time.

It can be helpful to be consciously aware of time is a great way to each other and, for example, to former common ground to build on: “This could be long walks with a picnic, common music-Listening or movie-Watching or photo books of common holidays, design”, is Lubisch.

Help in cases of domestic violence

But what if that doesn’t help, the sound is rough, the Aggression increasing? The long period of contact has provided the lock in many partnerships for increased potential for conflict. Statistics show an increase in domestic violence.

Who is aggressive, the Lubisch advises: “you break the Situation!” You should stop out of the room or go round the Block, call friends or the Samaritans.

Who is violence in the relationship, it can even maybe get no help. “You’re the one being watched, sometimes constantly,” explains Henning. It therefore calls on friends or neighbors to be vigilant and to call in case of emergency, the police.

Deutsche Presse-Agentur (dpa)

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